Once again, my Mother’s Day was a let down. I woke to a nice breakfast from hubs but sadly, that is the extent of his trying today. We did go to church but it was very obvious that he did not want to be there. He tried I guess though… points for that. My teenage daughter decided against going to church with me. She also decided against going to dinner at my mom and dad’s house. Oh, and she decided to not speak a single word to me all day. Not one word was spoken by her to me for the entire Mother’s Day. That is some respect I get, right?
Hubs failed to bother to get a card for me again, despite my being upset about that for the past several years. He never does anything for Mother’s Day. I wish I could say that I won’t get my hopes up but it happens every year. I think to myself that he wouldn’t fail to do something (heck, make a dang card!) when I am not only mom to our two children, but his as well. It is something that he should show appreciation for. Yet, every year is the same thing.
I have my two wonderful babies and Mackenzie who cared about me today. I got couple great cards (one will be featured here soon!), a “coffee cup” they decorated for me, and a cool flower Kenzie made with some kind of clay. At least they appreciate me and what this day is about.
I did have a good time at my parents’ house and some good food. Thank goodness too… or the entire day could be considered a wash. Personally, I think Mother’s Day should just be banished. I, for one, wouldn’t miss it at all.
No, there is no need to call the whaambulance. I am done feeling sorry for myself.
I am so sorry for this. There is no excuse for that kind of action from either one of them. You do so much for both of them and should have been honored in some way by your husband and your oldest step daughter on this day. I can’t imagine how you must have felt and I wish I could give you a hug. I am glad you had a great time with your mom. She sounds like a very special woman in your life. Thank God for Mac and your little babies. They know what Mother’s Day is all about….YOU!!!
I know what you mean. My hubs is good about making my birthday a big deal, but anniversarys and Mother’s Day just don’t pop on his radar. He did make me lunch and helped with dinner (Although he always handles the grill so it’s not that different.) but no card or presents.
We celebrated Mother’s Day as a family on Saturday so I got a gift from my stepdaughter Sat and then she sent me a text yesterday. I thought my stepson had forgot until he surprised me after dinner with a hanging plant. All in all it turned out good.
Sounds like your day had a few bumps but at least it ended on a high note.
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I’m sorry it didn’t turn out the way you wanted. ((hugs))
I ask these questions with sincerity because I really want to understand.
Why is receiving gifts so important? Your family saying “Happy Mother’s Day” wouldn’t be enough? Nowadays I’m lucky if I remember a holiday.
My parents never made a big deal out of holidays so I’ve never felt pressure to buy gifts. I do make it a point to call and say “Happy whatever holiday” and I usually remember to do it on the actual day but they have never been mad if I forget and they never expect gifts. I always tell my parents how much I appreciate them so maybe that’s why the mom and dad days aren’t important to them.
I think hubby cooking is a big deal and a show of appreciation. Why did the lack of card overshadow that? Does he normally go to church? Were you expecting an all day celebration?(again just trying to understand because I have a friend that expects a Mother’s Day weekend celebration)
The one thing I totally understand is why the step daughter thing bothered you. She could have at least said “Happy Mother’s Day”
I’m glad you were able to find some joy on your day. Looking forward to seeing the card.
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Adrienne,
It is not at all about a gift or day about me. I have asked the my husband take 5 minutes out of his day though and either buy me a card or make one. This has been something I have asked for several years. It is something that is important to me. It shouldn’t matter that it isn’t to him… it is to me. One small thing could make me happy. You have to know that I was a mom way before I was a mom because of his children. I took on the role of their mom while their bio mom was “gone” when Mason and Mackenzie were just little babies, younger than my Johnny now. At that point, I just wanted some recognition that, on at least one day, he shows that he appreciates all I do. I still do want that today when we now have 5 children.
It isn’t a matter of a gift at all. I honestly don’t expect a gift. I just want him to say more than 3 words that say how much I mean to this family and to him. His cooking was a nice gesture, but one that he does often. His going to church was also a nice gesture, but one I asked him not to do if he was going to make it worse for me and his attitude made it clear he did not want to be there so I didn’t enjoy it either. Like I said, he tried. He just failed to do the one thing I have been asking for over the past 9 years.
I didn’t want an all-day celebration. I am not like that. But, 5 minutes of time to pick out a card or make one would have said more to me than 24 hours of gifts and parties… only because I have asked for as much. I don’t see why my husband, who sees the struggles I have daily with his children alone, can’t do that much for me. The problem isn’t that he doesn’t do it but that he knows how important it is to me to have some gesture and yet he makes excuses why he didn’t.
You can come back around my birthday and you will likely find a similar post. I am not asking for much from my husband. But, I think I have given him so much of my life for him, his kids, and ours that a small gesture of a card isn’t asking too much in return.
Okay. I understand now. Thanks for providing the back story. Whew…five kids. 🙂
I would have been upset too. My husband agrees to go to things he hates because he thinks it’s what I want and then I end up miserable.
And it is more about the fact you took the time to explain why and what you want and for him not to follow through hurts. It makes you feel like your feelings aren’t important.
Plus with the situation with your step daughter he could have went overboard to make up for it to let you know other family members appreciate you.
I totally get it now and I’m still sorry it didn’t turn out right. Maybe next year?
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