It has been some time since I have talked to you all about being a doula. I did complete my training but I have yet to get certified. It isn’t for lack of desire though. I have been busy with other things and have been trying to determine how best to approach this new (and exciting) part of my life. I was referred by my (hopeful) future boss lately and it came a time for me to make a decision, once and for all.
I have decided that I am not going to charge for doula work. I truly feel blessed by God to have the gifts I have been given. As you may know, my future goal is to be a midwife. Until then, all I do is in the hands of God and I feel it is my duty to share those gifts. I know that many women make a living as a doula and I don’t begrudge them that. I think it is a fantastic job. It just not what I am comfortable with (the taking money part).
God gave me many gifts. He gave me the knowledge I have as a nurse and doula. He gave me hands to use, a heart to “touch” others, a mind to help others, and a desire to be there with women during the crisis we all loving refer to as labor and birth. It really is a crisis for that mom and baby. I feel it is my calling (if you will) to be a doula to help that mom get through her crisis. God has put me here to do that. I truly feel that.
So, I am taking a private client but won’t likely be doing many of those. I have told them that I am not going to charge them for my time and that I am doing this because I feel led by God to do it this way. They are both excited and shocked. I didn’t have a doula with Joley’s birth because I couldn’t afford one. I believe that my birth experience would have been different if I had one. I don’t want any woman who needs or desires doula support to go without simply because of cost.
Instead of a lot of private clients, I am volunteering my time to local shelters, women’s homes, unwed mother’s homes, etc. that may have a use for my skills. Many women in these situations need a support person and I would feel honored to be that person for them. I will not charge them and will do this as a ministry. I want to help women to have the birth they desire. I want to help a woman to bring a gift from God into this world. Until such a time as I move on to being a midwife, that is what I will do… not for money, but for God, for women and babies, with love.