This past weekend Mike and I had two opportunities to get out by ourselves. Both of the times the littles were sleeping so it made it possible to get out without the kids. We went out to dinner on Saturday night and then to the store on Sunday. Isn’t it funny how going to store can be considered a date when you have kids?
We really have made great strides in our marriage. We talk more and share our feelings more. In the past, Mike would get angry and get loud (at me, never the kids) and I would get angry and get loud back. He would then shut off and I would be left to deal with my feelings. This is no longer the case. We are talking things through. Mike and I are not getting angry at each other, don’t raise our voice, and are so much happier. Our kids likely don’t see a difference because, even when we were angry before, we didn’t do it in front of the kids. I think they may notice that we are closer than we were. We hug and kiss more than we used to, much to the dismay of my 16 year old who thinks it is just gross and my 3 year old who thinks mommy is for him to hug only.
In essence, we brought our marriage back to where it was years ago. The thing I am learning is that this isn’t really something we have to work hard on. If we remember to just stop and listen, we do all the things we both love about each other without thought. We have different ways of showing love for each other, but it is something that we are starting to understand more and it is nice. I spoke of this change awhile back and how we were going to focus on us more instead of making our focus the kids. We still give everything to our children, but these times when we can get out alone and just be together, they are worth everything to me.