Relationships are complicated. It’s nothing like the romantic movies that convince you that a world-class love affair can take place (in less than two hours). It’s much more common for couples to go through rough patches. At times, that means electing to take some space and breaking up. However, if he really is the one for you, the time apart will feel all wrong. Here’s how to tell that he’s was Mr. Right all along.
He Makes Time for You
All people need their space and time with friends, hobbies, to be alone, etc. Yet the man for you will always make time for you and will even make a good amount of sacrifices to ensure he gets to see you. The wrong guys will make it difficult to make plans or seem to fall off the face of the earth from time to time.
He Still Opens the Door
We’re all on our best behavior at the beginning of the relationship. People will act like their ideal selves to ‘seal the deal’ at the onset. However, after time passes, the wrong guy will no longer seem like a knight in shining armor. He may seem more like a nightmare. Conversely, Mr. Right will still hold the door open for you, surprise you with small tokens, and make you feel like the only woman in the world.
He Looks Good in Your Future
Some guys are mysterious and it’s difficult to see them in your future. Other guys just seem okay for the moment and you know that things will eventually end. However, Mr. Right looks good in your future; you can’t picture him in your rearview mirror. Things may have went sour at the moment, but if you can see him in your future, search for signs you can get your ex back.
He Accepts You
After some time, couples learn to accept one another or they grow apart. The wrong guy will identify things about you that he doesn’t like and will try to change you. But the guy that is right for you will be more than accepting and find more things about you that he likes as time goes by. Of course, if he is right for you, you’ll feel the same way; you wouldn’t change a thing about him.
He Likes Your Friends
Most couples begin to hang around other couples and make mutual friends. However, you’ll still have friends from your ‘single life.’ The right guy understands the importance of maintaining contact with your old and new friends and will encourage that you spend time with them; he’ll even want to spend time with them too. The wrong guy is likely to want to isolate you from your friends and won’t take interest in them at all.
He Listens to You
Of course, couples talk but the right guy really listens. Even more so, he asks you about your day, how you feel about particular events, etc. He doesn’t just hear you; he listens. The wrong guy won’t want to listen in depth or be bothered with your complaints or concerns. He’ll mostly care about how he feels and won’t consider your perspective or feelings. However, people have different personalities and levels of emotional intelligence, so even if he doesn’t seem like he listens, he may still care. Some people need to be told how important it is to listen.
He Does Little Things
Couples who have been together for a long time admit that it’s the little things that count. What did he do that really showed he cared, aside from getting you flowers on Valentine’s Day or taking you to dinner on a Saturday night? Did he help you with chores, randomly tell you you’re beautiful, compose songs or poems, write you notes and leave them around the house? The small things really show that a man cares and Mr. Right will do them.
He Can Be With You for Long Periods Without Arguing
Couples are bound to have their differences, but the wrong guy will start to get on your nerves, or vice versa, for no apparent reason. You can spend days with Mr. Right and not get tired of being in his presence. The wrong guy has an expiration date, and if you grow weary of someone after spending long periods with them, they are not for you. If you can’t spend a long weekend or go on vacation without fighting, then you’re with the wrong person. Mr. Right makes you feel good anywhere at anytime.
David Taylor is described by his friends as a ‘Love Guru’. He has a background in psychology and has worked as a relationship therapist. He writes about love, lust and loss for a range of sites.